Posts by Georgie Coote
Six ways to increase your emotional bank account
In a relationship, it is vital to consider keeping your emotional bank account firmly in the black. Dipping into the red can lead to disaster. In her research on how a steady diet of positive emotions can help you thrive in life, Psychologist Dr Barbara Fredrickson, identified that it requires a ratio of three positive…
Read MoreHow to communicate with your partner effectively
We have taken a look at how negative communication traits affect a relationship in my last post; How communicating using the Four Horsemen is harmful to your relationship. Now let’s look at how we can approach communication more positively. It’s important to learn how to communicate effectively, and it’s not always an easy task. Remember,…
Read MoreHow communicating using the Four Horsemen is harmful to your relationship
Communication is vital if you are trying to reconnect with your partner after years of being together but feeling you have drifted apart. Sometimes we slip into negative communication patterns harmful to our relationship; John Gottman identifies these as a relationship’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. In my podcast with co-host Gary Austin, Love in…
Read MoreSetting boundaries: Why they are essential in every relationship
Setting boundaries and communicating them to those around you is essential in every relationship; for your partner to know what you want and what you don’t. For your mother-in-law to see what you will accept in your relationship and what you won’t. For your kids to understand that Mom is a person in her own…
Read MoreHow to change your mindset to improve your relationship
When we are in a long-term relationship, the early days of passionate love start to wear off, and we move into a more comfortable, deeper, steady type of love that comes with the feelings of security you have with a long-term partner. But often, we get annoyed by our partner’s quirks, habits, or perceived faults,…
Read MorePassionate love vs. Compassionate love
Do you feel the spark has gone after spending many years in your long-term relationship? That the passionate love has been buried deep under the challenges of your marriage? This is not uncommon in a relationship that has weathered life’s ups and downs and has, well, to be honest, experienced life. Stresses may have eaten…
Read MoreWhy it’s important to celebrate small wins
Our lives tend to move so fast that we barely have time to pause, let alone celebrate small wins. What do I mean by small wins? Anything that you have accomplished that you feel good about and that is a small step forward. My client Carol learned to celebrate small wins My client Carol recently…
Read MoreWhat’s your love language?
It’s essential to know your partner’s and your own love language so you can connect with each other on a deeper level and express affection and love to them in a way that they can appreciate and deeply connect to. My language is ‘Acts of Service.’ If I come home and someone has emptied the…
Read MoreHow to stop procrastinating
Are you a procrastinator? Perhaps finding 1001 things to do rather than doing the one you have to get done? Maybe you don’t consider yourself to suffer from procrastination but sometimes you get stuck on just one thing. It’s not necessarily that we procrastinate over everything, just on some things that we find more challenging…
Read MoreSeven ways to increase emotional intimacy with your partner
After years spent together, raising your family, and putting your career, family, and other demands of a busy life before your relationship, it may be time to start to put your relationship first. It’s time to think about ways to increase emotional intimacy with your partner. The love you have for each other is still…
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