Posts Tagged ‘Relationships’
The Fair Play System: A Game Changer for Parents (Especially if You Have ADHD)
Are you carrying the mental load for your entire household? Do you find yourself remembering every appointment, meal, permission slip, and sock size-while also trying to hold down a job, be a good partner, and maybe even have five minutes to yourself?If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And if you’re a parent with ADHD,…
Read MoreADHD and the Mental Load: Letting Go of “Shoulds” in Family Life
Does it ever feel like everyone around you is doing more, more activities, more outings, more achievements, and you’re just trying to make it through the day without forgetting the laundry in the washer… again? You’re not alone. Many parents with ADHD feel this pressure even more strongly, especially when the mental load of family…
Read MoreLoving Someone with ADHD When You Don’t Have It: Navigating Partnership and Parenting
Living with a partner who has ADHD can feel like riding a rollercoaster with no map and no brake. One moment you’re laughing together at an impulsive adventure; the next, you’re managing the fallout of a forgotten appointment, a missed school pickup, or a conversation that never quite landed. Relationships where one partner has ADHD…
Read MoreSix ways to increase your emotional bank account
In a relationship, it is vital to consider keeping your emotional bank account firmly in the black. Dipping into the red can lead to disaster. In her research on how a steady diet of positive emotions can help you thrive in life, Psychologist Dr Barbara Fredrickson, identified that it requires a ratio of three positive…
Read MoreHow to Communicate with Your Partner Effectively
We’ve taken a look at how negative communication patterns affect a relationship in my last post, How Communicating Using the Four Horsemen Can Erode Your Relationship. Now let’s look at how we can approach communication more positively. Learning to communicate effectively matters, and it’s not always easy. Remember, it’s not selfish to communicate your needs.…
Read MoreHow Communicating Using the Four Horsemen Can Erode Your Relationship
Communication is vital if you are trying to reconnect with your partner after years of being together but feeling you have drifted apart. Sometimes we slip into negative communication patterns harmful to our relationship; John Gottman identifies these as a relationship’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. While these patterns show up in many relationships, I…
Read MoreSetting boundaries: Why they are essential in every relationship
Setting boundaries and communicating them to those around you is essential in every relationship; for your partner to know what you want and what you don’t. For your mother-in-law to see what you will accept in your relationship and what you won’t. For your kids to understand that Mom is a person in her own…
Read MoreHow to change your mindset to improve your relationship
When we are in a long-term relationship, the early days of passionate love start to wear off, and we move into a more comfortable, deeper, steady type of love that comes with the feelings of security you have with a long-term partner. But often, we get annoyed by our partner’s quirks, habits, or perceived faults,…
Read MorePassionate love vs. Compassionate love
Do you feel the spark has gone after spending many years in your long-term relationship? That the passionate love has been buried deep under the challenges of your marriage? This is not uncommon in a relationship that has weathered life’s ups and downs and has, well, to be honest, experienced life. Stresses may have eaten…
Read MoreWhat’s your love language?
It’s essential to know your partner’s and your own love language so you can connect with each other on a deeper level and express affection and love to them in a way that they can appreciate and deeply connect to. My language is ‘Acts of Service.’ If I come home and someone has emptied the…
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